It is a stated fact that all children perform bad (from our adult point of view) deeds from time to time. They fight, cry, tell lies, refuse to eat porridge and so on. Parents in this case face the dilemma – whether to scold their children or just mildly tell them not to behave badly. There is no universal recipe for such situations but you can follow some simple rules if you do not want to hurt your kid’s feelings.
One of the main aims of a growing personality is to meet the expectations of his or her parents. If you call your kid “evil” or “bad” he will start behaving according to this description. The fact is that it is our opinion which forms the character of the child. Of course, there are other important factors as well, but this one is the main. The kid views his parents like some unachievable gods and their idea of him makes him be the same as we think of him.
Life is unpredictable. Once you realize that you fall in love with a married woman. It is wonderful to love someone but in this case it is too complicated. She is married and has children. It is more complicated if she loves you as well. Do you want her to divorce? Do you really want to get married her and to father her children? Maybe you just play games with her? Well, you should answer these questions having an affair with a married woman.
I witnessed a friend of mine who fall in love with a married woman. Well, for the first time it was difficult to realize my dear friend made such a choice. His lover was going to divorce and she had two kids. She was persuading him that didn’t love her husband as they had nothing in common. Well, the situation was complicated indeed. Anyway it seemed to be okay as she was planning to separate from her husband. But they are still together. She is still cheating on her husband and she is still playing games with my friend. It is painful for him. But he can do nothing. It is terrible as he has serious intentions and she is changing nothing. She spends holidays and vacations along with her husband. And it seems like she is absolutely okay with it. But my friend suffers. I tried to explain him that she uses him and that he should leave her. But he is crazy about her and is ready to do everything for her.
When you are going to divorce it’s sad. First of all, because you need to end one part of your life for sake of the new one. On the other hand when you need to tell your kid his mom and dad are going to leave each other it’s a double torture. The atmosphere and the state of your child in such a situation are the most important issues to observe.
So, first of all, both parents should stay calm themselves, because children actually feel everything-. Any change in the standard pattern of your behavior.
– Billy, it’s getting late, are you done with your homework?”, the parents say and switch HBO on to watch the next episode of their favorite series. So Billy drags himself into his room to do his home task. He opens his books and browses the tasks: ok, math: “What is the square root of 225?” What the heck is square root? Ok, let’s skip math and switch to Spanish: “Translate the following text into English”… Oh boy, what are all these words supposed to mean? Goodbye Spanish, hello history: “The instability created in Europe by the First World War set the stage for another international conflict–World War II–which broke out two decades later. Rising to power in an economically and politically unstable Germany, Adolf Hitler and his Nazi Party…” oh man, that’s way to much!
So, Billy sets the books aside and goes back to the living room, sits on the couch and joins their parents in watching a new episode of the series.