Life is unpredictable. Once you realize that you fall in love with a married woman. It is wonderful to love someone but in this case it is too complicated. She is married and has children. It is more complicated if she loves you as well. Do you want her to divorce? Do you really want to get married her and to father her children? Maybe you just play games with her? Well, you should answer these questions having an affair with a married woman.
I witnessed a friend of mine who fall in love with a married woman. Well, for the first time it was difficult to realize my dear friend made such a choice. His lover was going to divorce and she had two kids. She was persuading him that didn’t love her husband as they had nothing in common. Well, the situation was complicated indeed. Anyway it seemed to be okay as she was planning to separate from her husband. But they are still together. She is still cheating on her husband and she is still playing games with my friend. It is painful for him. But he can do nothing. It is terrible as he has serious intentions and she is changing nothing. She spends holidays and vacations along with her husband. And it seems like she is absolutely okay with it. But my friend suffers. I tried to explain him that she uses him and that he should leave her. But he is crazy about her and is ready to do everything for her.
Watching the people who surround me and analyzing my own behavior just a couple years ago. I have come to the conclusion that we try to increase the number of our social contacts in every possible way. Sometimes we do it consciously, sometimes not, but the fact is that most people are afraid of loneliness and try to avoid being on their own in any way.
And now think: how many people of those you are communicating with on a regular basis can you really call your friends? I bet you have never even thought about it, and once you do, you will only be able to name a few people.
If you are trying to be more social and get popular, it still does not guarantee that your range of good friends is about to widen. You may drink a beer or two with your colleague after work or hang out with that guy you met last week in a night club, or have an intellectual talk with that online buddy who shares your interests once you finally meet in real life, but don’t you think this is only occasional communication? Most people around you will view you just as a good interlocutor, a friendly and easy-going person who they will first consider when asking for help an advice, and for some of them you will be just a Friday drinking mate, and this is inevitable. You will only have a couple of close friends who will be there for you no matter what happens, who feel responsible for keeping your relationship up and will love and appreciate you just fir who you are.